I am stealing some Mantra's from Undies! a blog that I came across. Though our situations are different, she has said it better than I could, and for that I say thanks!
I say to myself:
# Don't settle for less than you deserve because you love him and have a life together.
# He can not have his cake and eat too just to leave me to starve.
# Nothing will change unless I make changes.
# It will be hard no matter when it happens so it may as well happen now.
I am going to practice saying this over and over again.....