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Saturday, October 08, 2005

The real me?

Here's the Story of the Day:
impossibly balanced between her memories of herself & her mirror in real life

The Ten Steps of Acceptance

When you accept someone:

  • Step 1: You honor the full sweep of your emotions.
  • Step 2: You give up your need for revenge but continue to seek a just resolution.
  • Step 3: You stop obsessing about the injury and reengage with life.
  • Step 4: You protect yourself from further abuse.
  • Step 5: You frame the offender's behavior in terms of his own personal struggles.
  • Step 6: You look honestly at your own contribution to the injury.
  • Step 7: You challenge your false assumptions about what happened.
  • Step 8: You look at the offender apart from his offense, weighing the good against the bad.
  • Step 9: You carefully decide what kind of relationship you want with him.
  • Step 10: You forgive yourself for your own failings.

    NewYorkMoments said...

    It's #10 that's the most difficult.

    Shan'Chelle said...

    Actually I'm stuck between step 2 & 3 personally :-P