Not Ready to Make Nice

Seems that a lot of people are thinking about the topic of forgiving and forgetting these days. As I recently posted in a comment to a friend time may heal everything but sometimes there just isn't enough time in a lifetime. The only thing we can do at that point to release some of the pain is to let go of the people involved. It is a rare situation that things can get back to how they were....and I can't say that this is always a bad thing. If we are honest with ourselves in looking back at the "good old days" of our lives we would find that the situations we want back didn't necessarily benefit our lives in the first place. If they did it I think it would be a hell of a lot easier to forget the bad stuff. Human beings as a species are scared of change...this is why so many people stay in bad situations long past the time they should have turned and run the opposite direction without looking back...myself included.

The last few weeks I have rediscovered my anger. I have been feeling it bubble just under the surface...and like the Dixie Chicks, I'm not sure I can ever forgive and forget...and I don't know that I would if I could.

The Dixie Chicks actually hit the nail on the head with their new song. The great thing about the song is that even though we all know what the inspiration is the words can actually apply to all of our lives, regardless of how we feel about the people saying them. Don't believe me? Read the lyrics below without thinking of the Dixie Chicks singing them and tell me you have never felt that way before.

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Forgive, sounds good
Forget, I’m not sure I could
They say time heals everything
But I’m still waiting

I’m through with doubt
There’s nothing left for me to figure out
I’ve paid a price
And I’ll keep paying

I’m not ready to make nice
I’m not ready to back down
I’m still mad as hell and
I don’t have time to go round and round and round
It’s too late to make it right
I probably wouldn’t if I could
‘Cause I’m mad as hell
Can’t bring myself to do what it is you think I should

I know you said
Can’t you just get over it
It turned my whole world around
And I kind of like it

I made my bed and I sleep like a baby
With no regrets and I don’t mind sayin’
It’s a sad sad story when a mother will teach her
Daughter that she ought to hate a perfect stranger
And how in the world can the words that I said
Send somebody so over the edge
That they’d write me a letter
Sayin’ that I better shut up and sing
Or my life will be over

I’m not ready to make nice
I’m not ready to back down
I’m still mad as hell and
I don’t have time to go round and round and round
It’s too late to make it right
I probably wouldn’t if I could
‘Cause I’m mad as hell
Can’t bring myself to do what it is you think I should

I’m not ready to make nice
I’m not ready to back down
I’m still mad as hell and
I don’t have time to go round and round and round
It’s too late to make it right
I probably wouldn’t if I could
‘Cause I’m mad as hell
Can’t bring myself to do what it is you think I should

Forgive, sounds good
Forget, I’m not sure I could
They say time heals everything
But I’m still waiting